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Here are your cards! The first three steps are can’t-do-without ingredients to clear messaging - be clear what going on, why it's important and what you want. Because of the 'fear of what happens next' most people back down before they even start. 

The purpose of Step 4 is to help you expect a reaction, and to be able to anticipate the most common ones. If you can anticipate it, you can prepare for it, stay centered and move to steps 5 and 6.

 

NOTES.

  1. Think through the interaction. Practice the steps alone, role play with a friend, start in low threat places, then with your target.

  2. If you’ve been putting up with a behaviour for awhile, instead of rushing out of the gate you might introduce it by saying something like "you know, I’ve been thinking about something for a while" … "Something's been bothering me and I want to talk to you about it  …" Make the timing work to your advantage. 

  3. Don’t get attached to the outcome. Just because you’ve communicated impeccably doesn’t guarantee the result you want. 

  4. Regardless of outcome, working the steps themselves will  increase your power, just focus on that. If results aren’t there, repeat the last step: “This is really important ... how can we make this happen ... what can we do ... I need your help here.” 

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